Blog, Mental Health

Everyday Drinking Triggers (And How To Be Mindful of Them)

So there’s recently been a heatwave in the UK. My little garden is blooming, there’s sunlight in the office while I work, we can have barbecues for a sunny evening dinner. It’s beautiful. But is there one little thing missing? A small voice whispers in the back of my mind. The thing about giving up… Continue reading Everyday Drinking Triggers (And How To Be Mindful of Them)

Blog, DBT, Mental Health

How Invalidating Environments Intensify Distress

As I covered in my recent discussion on what emotions do for us, one of the three key functions of emotions is to communicate our emotional world and needs to others. This is biologically wired into our brain for survival.  Yes, sometimes we need to learn to regulate those emotions so we can still behave… Continue reading How Invalidating Environments Intensify Distress

What do emotions do for us? Functions and Benefits
Blog, DBT, Mental Health

What Do Emotions Do For Us?

As someone that spent the first 25 years of life simultaneously afraid of and powerless to my emotions, one thing DBT was helpful with was teaching me the real purpose of emotions, what they do for us, and why they are needed. If you have been in a lot of invalidating environments throughout your life,… Continue reading What Do Emotions Do For Us?

Guilt vs Shame
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Can You Tell the Difference Between Guilt and Shame?

When I put this together, I first started writing a post about what shame does for us, and quickly realised that I still sometimes struggle to differentiate between what is shame and what is guilt. This "blur" of emotions can happen for a number of reasons, one being complex trauma.  So I thought I'd run… Continue reading Can You Tell the Difference Between Guilt and Shame?

How I've Been
Blog, Mental Health

Where I’ve Been, What’s New, and How I’m Really Doing

Hi again lovely readers! It’s been a while. Over a year, actually. I didn’t plan to step away from the blog space for so long, but sometimes life and work (and mental health) have other ideas. If you’ve been wondering where I disappeared to, here’s a little life update and an honest look at where… Continue reading Where I’ve Been, What’s New, and How I’m Really Doing